Thanks for visiting my blog today. I decided to share my Pregnancy diary, lessons I learnt in each of the phases and it will be in 5 parts. How we found out, 1-3 Trimester and Birth Story. I hope you enjoy it.
Before we got married, we talked about having kids and our desire was to wait a couple of months before we tried, that was the agreement but God had other plans.
We were not trying and we were not not trying. To be honest, I was terrified of getting pregnant because I knew the responsibility it comes with - or I thought I knew - after the first 6 months, we already had family concerned for us but we were not worried at all as we had been working on ourselves and getting to know each other better to focus on. Looking back now, I am glad we had that time before we got pregnant.
You know how every month before you see your period it just feels like you're pregnant, I had those moments, I would make my husband buy me Pregnancy tests and they would all be negative and while it was a relief (because I felt I wasn't ready) I felt abit of sadness that it wasn't positive, when our marriage was approaching the one year mark we decided, as advised to consult. My Aunty and her Husband own a fertility clinic and I spoke with her, tests done and everything was fine, that was all that we needed to hear, we went back to our worry-free life.
My period was delayed, I honestly didn't think much of it at the time because over the course of the last year the cycle had changed but after like 3-4 days and no period, I decided to take a test, this time without my husband didn't want to stress him just incase it was negative because he was more excited than I was. I was restless through the night and at , I stood up and went to the guest room so I wouldn't wake him up, took the test and waited.
I saw the 2nd line and I started hyperventilating. I didn't know how to be excited. It hit me that I wasn't really ready. I had thought that if it was positive I would do something nice to tell my husband as our 1st wedding anniversary was 2 days after, I couldn't wait. I went into the room immediately, woke him up, showed him the test and he was super excited, and I was there crying. He started making fun of me for crying, we stayed awake till daybreak. We prayed, talked, he made fun of me some more and imagined how our lives was going to change.
The next 2 days was our wedding anniversary and I wasn't going to believe the test until we did a blood test, so we did a blood test to confirm, it was the best anniversary gift anyone could ask for!
2 lessons that this experience taught me;
1. 9 months is a long time; You'd get excited about your pregnancy and quickly remember that you won't give birth in the next one week. You will take one day at a time, you'd deal with all the 'perks' that come with each of the trimesters but the good thing about the 9 months wait, if you feel you are not ready, it's a good time to start getting used to the idea of a new mini human in your life.
2. Get checked out after a year; If you've been married for a year and you're not trying to prevent getting pregnant, get checked out. Fortunately for us, we didn't have any issue but I have a friend of mine who decided to get checked and found out there was an issue. She did the necessary tests and took medications and now she is expecting her first child. Imagine, if she didn't get checked out? She would still be "Waiting for it to happen". The earlier you discover, the better.
Here are a few of the resources that helped me out after I found out I was pregnant
How did you find out you were pregnant? What do you think of relatives putting pressure on newly married couples? Let's talk.