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When you go through a deep loss and it's a time for you to mourn that might require you to sit with yourself in deep reflection but you can't do that because you have children.
How do you grieve when you have little children depending on you?
Like a friend said "You just have to get up and be fine" because, in all honesty, there is so much sadness you can continue to show around little children most especially if they don't have the capacity to understand why mummy is sad and crying. It can be really difficult.
I lost someone dear to my heart sometime in March and I had to shelve my pain and hurt after the first week because life with children is so fast-paced and it goes from one activity to the next without you really getting a breather. It's even worse with this new normal that we are dealing with but the grief is in one corner of your heart waiting to pounce.
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When you go through a deep loss and it's a time for you to mourn that might require you to sit with yourself in deep reflection but you can't do that because you have children.
How do you grieve when you have little children depending on you?
Like a friend said "You just have to get up and be fine" because, in all honesty, there is so much sadness you can continue to show around little children most especially if they don't have the capacity to understand why mummy is sad and crying. It can be really difficult.
I lost someone dear to my heart sometime in March and I had to shelve my pain and hurt after the first week because life with children is so fast-paced and it goes from one activity to the next without you really getting a breather. It's even worse with this new normal that we are dealing with but the grief is in one corner of your heart waiting to pounce.
How do you deal with loss while you are mummy-ing? If I say I have the answers I will say it's a lie, what I have found that has worked for me;
- Take each day as it comes: I took each day as it came, I remember the times we had, our conversations and mostly push aside any emotion I feel - which might not be good - but it was all I could get.
- Let a trusted person have your child(ren) for a while so you can carefully process your loss: In the first week, my husband just tried to let my son not disturb me too much but in all honesty, I wish I could just be left alone for like a whole month but we know that is not possible right?
- Accept all the help you can get
- Ask for alone time: This is the first time alone without my son since it happened and I asked for alone time, enough time for me to let the flood of emotions wash over me and really really accept that it happened and hopefully accept the reality.
- Take all the time you need to heal, don't try to snap out of it especially when the world has moved on from the loss: It will feel like the world has moved on and it indeed will but taking small small chunks of the hard pill in order to facilitate the healing is great help.
- Find someone to talk to: To be honest, I've not really spoken to anyone about how deeply this still hurts but I guess writing this is also some form of therapy for me. Aring out my feelings.
- Draw your children close, they bring so much laughter and joy to wherever they are; As much as the fast pace of my life with my child has not allowed me to process a lot of my feeling, the presence of my child brings so much joy and laughter into my life and makes me less moody and I can't imagine the hole I would've sunk into if I wasn't forced to stay joyful because of him.
Dealing with loss (of anything) is a personal journey and it's different for different people, just ensure to take your time on your journey to healing. I really do wish you all the best and do hope you take time to heal.
What's your experience with dealing with loss as a mum?
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First, let’s have a group hug if you have kids and have to be at home with them all day. It has really been an interesting couple of months having to teach my child. One thing I have learned in these times is never to underestimate teachers ever again. I have learnt and still learning how much patience I need to teach a child especially one that is so full of energy and wants to be in like three different places at a particular time. But I am thankful that I get to spend these times with her, observing her and know that I have to be more intentional about the best ways to teach her. One way is through play. I realize she learns better through play, doing craftwork that teach the necessary skills she needs at this time.
I also realized the environment, the decor of the space, the ambience in which she learns matter a lot to how productive her day turns out. I have come up with five tips you can incorporate in your child’s play room/ room with a play area to ensure they stay in the space to get work done in a fun way. The goal here is to create a space that will instigate play and get them to do creative activities in a fun and informal environment.
- PICK THE RIGHT FINISH
Use paint finishes like satin that is easy to clean, cleanable wallpaper and wall decals. Introduce colors that spark the imagination of your child like shades of blue, use bold patterns on walls or ceiling to create a focal point that can interest your child.
2. FURNITURE PIECES
Use Kid-friendly furniture like rounded coffee tables, cleanable fabric sofas because, children. Introduce furniture for a specific purpose like table and chairs for craftwork as well as doing their homework. Use ottoman, poufs that are easy to move around.
3. MAKE GOOD USE OF STORAGE
As much as we understand that it's a kids room/playroom and there is a tendency to create a lot of mess, it is also important to have a designated place for items, toys and materials. Use low shelf storage for easy access so the kids can clean up themselves. A very good way to store toys is using baskets, boxes that are not just functional but also stylish. Label the baskets so the kids know what goes in each of them (a win for you if you have older kids).
4. USE BOLD DECOR
If you are not into colored walls or furniture, the decor pieces are a perfect way to introduce colors into your child’s space. Use bold colors in area rugs, floor mats, or wall art. You can also introduce themes your kid loves in the wall art. Make the wall arts memorable with colorful paintings and craftwork your kids make, I am sure they will be pretty proud to see their work on the wall.
5. BE CREATIVE
Get creative with decor pieces, introduce a reading corner using a teepee tent, paint the storage units with bold colors, if you are using the rooms double as a play room, get creative with the beds.
There you have it, which of these ideas are you incorporating in your child’s space to make it more conducive for them?
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Review: The New Nigerian Huggies Pant || An Honest Review
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The experience I have had with foreign Huggies has been great but the Nigerian one, not so great, so it had never crossed my mind to try this new pant they launched, I wasn't so keen on trying it out but when we didn't get our regular diaper pant due to this pandemic, we had no other option but to try the diaper.
We got the diaper in size 6.
What I loved about it:
- I think one of the good things about Huggies is their graphics, I love that it's effortless and still classy.
- Love how easy to wear it is, the stretchy band is soft.
- Love that it is also easy to tear off when the pant is full.
What I don't like;
- One of my major problems with the Nigerian Huggies has been that it usually leaked and I have to change the diaper during the night and sadly this is also following that trend. I don't know if it's the size or my son pees too much but from the picture above it fits well right? but I've had to wake up to patch of pee on the bed on different nights after about 3-4 hours of sleep.
- Disposal. You have to cut it and tie it to throw it away. Sigh! I got a foreign Huggies from a family friend and the pant had velcro and it was the best innovation I have seen with this disposal thing, unfortunately, it doesn't seem practical for us to order diapers from the US. Huggies has the technology to create that type of pants so I don't know why it's not being used in this Nigerian version. It would've made it so much cooler and I would've forgiven the leak.
- You can't easily tell the front from the back. You have to really look well. There is a "back" written on the back of the diaper but it's not so obvious and I can't tell you how many times we've worn it back to front. Lol.
Cost:
Got this pack N 2,250
The one on Jumia cost 6,500 for 4 packs
I would give it 3 cuddly loves majorly because it is soft and if you can deal with changing the pants like once at night, it might work for you.
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