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Why we need to take our children's privacy more seriously || The Cuddle Blog
March 29, 2019
I recently used the “Ask me a question” tag on Instagram and the only question I got from 2 different people is “Why don't you show your son's face?” I will give my reasons in this post.
The short answer to it is; The Internet never forgets
But let’s go to the long answer:
As much as we absolutely love our children and want to show them to the world, we need to see them as individuals who although might be little right now, have a future.
There are 2 ways to look at it, Privacy & Security.
Let’s start with Privacy:
We were not born in the age where our parents could plaster our lives all over the internet for the world to see. Now, Imagine this. Someone just has to type your name in Google and your baby pictures, video of your birth, your childhood, the food you ate, didn’t like all over the internet. How does that make you feel?
I still struggle with “How much is too much?” especially when you do choose to blog about your motherhood experience and I will share more on that later. Let’s go back to this privacy thing.
A situation happened earlier in the year where a 9-year-old girl found her mums article about her online and saw all the images she had been posting of her since she was a child and expressly told her mum to please stop posting about her online. Her mum refused but she said they came to a middle ground (Read more about it here)
Was daughter making a fuss? Was the mother right?
As an individual based on your personality, your worldview and experiences you don’t mind sharing your life but can you say the same for your child? When this mother was sharing her child's life online, she did it based on herself and the child is now old enough as has decided that she doesn’t want it. How are you sure your child will want it?
Children don’t understand the internet, until we explain it to them and I believe until we do (giving them the benefits and consequences of it) they should then give their consent if they would want that for themselves or not.
It would interest you to know that even if you delete something, the internet never forgets. It only takes a determined person to find it.
Another example is of a mum who shared something about her son online, she has deleted the original post (on the surface internet) but a screenshot of it still exists with the picture of her son and unless the person who posted that screenshot deletes it (It will always be there on the underground internet though), it would be there for when her son grows older and googles her name. Find the article here
Our children are entitled to their privacy, just as we are entitled to ours and make a choice as to what we want to post, when we want to post and on what platform. We should give our children the same choice.
On Security:
There are bad people in the world and around us and as much as we would like to “God forbid” everything, it is there. I was watching one Instagram celebrity on snapchat a while ago and while she was careful not to show the name of her sons school while showing herself dropping him off, I caught a glimpse of a friend of mine who was the boys teacher and by knowing the creche she was in, I could easily find out the school she took her children to. I am not a bad person and I don’t wish any negative thing happens to her but do we all vet everyone that views our children's pictures? Or videos online?
Another perfect example is a blogger online who wished her daughter happy birthday with pictures of her only for her to see her daughters image on a guys page calling her “boo” she tried to report the image, the account and Instagram didn’t take it down. Imagine her horror! She doesn’t know this person from anywhere!!!!!
Images from your account can be downloaded and used, It is just not safe! She has since removed all her family pictures online.
Another analogy I use is, you know how you feel like you know some celebrities because you see them often on screen? That’s what happens when people see your children that you share online, everyone will greet them like they know them and children don’t know who is ‘bad’ and ‘good’.
Many things can be deduced from a single image and from series of your images, 2 and 2 can be put together.
How can you protect your children online?
- Don’t call them by their real names online; not because you don’t want people to know their names but in future, if someone types your child's full name, it won’t bring out their life history.
- Don’t show their faces; Again even if by chance they find out the pseudo name you gave your child online, there won’t be a face to the name and anyone that is not close enough to you or doesn’t meet you in this life won’t know what your child looks like, most especially if you are in the public eyes - they can have a normal life.
- If you are not a blogger, any vital info of your child shouldn’t be out there; School, class, what they ate, where they play etc. This can be deduced by things like school drop-offs, uniform pictures, showing your trip to somewhere. Simple things like that.
- Ask your family not to post their pictures and if they HAVE to, have the control: Let them ask for permission, give them the picture you want to be out there IF they have to post it and tell them not to tag you! Think about it, no one will really go and be searching for grandmas name to find your child.
- Keep your account private: While this is not necessarily effective in my opinion but it is a level of care because there is an extra layer of security on your account but know that your pictures can still be downloaded.
- Just don’t post their pictures. Simple. I know, we all want to talk about our kids that’s why we have a family Whatsapp group. Lol. If it’s itching me too much, I post to my sisters to see the wonders their nephew is doing.
If you are a blogger this portion is for you;
I still struggle with “How much is too much” when I share but I have my goal in front of me, which is to encourage, inspire and build a community of stay-at-home & Homeschooling mums. I weigh the picture(faceless) or content in light of this goal and I ask myself, “will this picture just bring me likes and comments?” then I don’t share those that fall into that category.
How can a blogger know exactly what to post about their kids;
- Know the long term consequences of sharing online and decide which you can live with
- Be aware that your child can in the future tell you to stop posting about them, think about it and make a decision on what to post based on that.
- Know that in some cases, some information cannot leave the internet. So, be guided before you post.
- Be aware of all the risks and possible “weak points” you might have most especially if you have a larger audience and take extra caution.
- If you are working with brands, let them know the boundaries (upfront) when your children are involved and be willing to let go of any opportunity that doesn’t respect those.
I understand that this might sound “too serious” and you may be in the “It’s not that serious gang” (Just like me a few years ago) but we have to understand that we are indeed responsible for our kids and their well being and we would be the first to be hit hard when something we took lightly isn’t so light anymore.
P.S: If you are a blogger and you have a URL you want to ‘erase’ from Google, use this link. Thank me later.
What are your thoughts? Should it be this serious?

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Hello People! This is week 1 of our 52-week theme-based activities
Week 1: All about me || 52 weeks of theme-based toddler homeschooling activities
March 23, 2019
Hello People! This is week 1 of our 52-week theme-based activities
- Numeracy:
- Science:
- Craft:
- Fine motor skills:
- Gross motor skills:
- Cooking:
- Books to read:
- Trip:
- Screen:
- Music:
- Bible:
Like I mention in the previous post, these are the categories I would be using to plan but let me put a disclaimer, my son is 2 and I don't sit him down to 'teach' him anything, we mostly just talk about all these things and there is zero pressure to do a certain activity. Like I also mentioned we are only doing planned activities 3 times in a week and the other 2 days we focus on water play, walks around the neighbourhood, playground and hopefully soon sand play.
Here was the plan for week 1;
- Numeracy: Count body parts/Birthday (He turned 2) We counted our body parts and I honestly can't remember how he responded to it. We talked about him turning 2 on the 15th and counted 1, 2 with a big hurray!!! It brings so many giggles!
- Craft: Finger painting, trace out all 5 fingers & colour, make a face. We did this on different days of the week. (pictures and what you need below)
You need, 2 Googly eyes, something to draw a circle, gum, pen, thread
1. Make the circle and cut it. Draw "hair" with a pen
Pull out the string.
draw the eyes, nose & mouth Put the glue on the hair, eyes and had cuddles put the eyes, name it and hurray.
Added one crayon to colour the mouth.
What you need: Finger paint, a pencil to trace a finger, alot of patience and will power to leave your child to play and make a mess.
- Fine motor skills: Play dough with 2 candles to poke holes in- I couldn't do this one, we were too occupied with other days
- Gross motor skills: Playground/nature walk: Our nature walk this week was focused on anything he was interested in. If he wanted a flower, we cut it. If he wanted to watch the garbage truck, I let him.
Flowers
We talked about the orange truck
We stopped by the wheelbarrow
Picked up a leaf
Flowers
He started dropping all the random things inside the drainage, stones, leaf and watched how the water beneath reacted.
He sat to watch the garbage truck do their thing. - Cooking: Face pancake/ Bake birthday cake together
- Books to read: My book about me - Dr Seuss/All by myself - Mercer Mayer : I couldn't find My book about me but we read "All by myself" via youtube. I am still looking for how to update our library
- Screen: We didn't really do anything along this lines but it is supposed to be screen time related to the theme for the week
- Music: head, shoulders, knees & toes, My name is.... (I used supersimple songs version)
- Bible: Jesus loves me song
I hope this inspires you. Next week we are working on "Me and my home"

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52 Weeks of theme based toddler homeschooling activities || Homeschooling In Nigeria
March 19, 2019
When I started homeschooling, I was looking for a curriculum to follow and most of the ones I found were all about teaching numbers, colours and as time went on and my education philosophy started to evolve, I decided that I was going to do weekly theme-based activities.
The beauty of this theme based activities is they get to learn about all of these things but I do it without the pressure of “You must know it”. I would be sharing my weekly activities and what my 2-year-old and I get up to every week to inspire you and I really hope it does.
Some people follow the school year calendar (because it is a requirement in their country) but since my son is still 2 and I don’t plan on taking him to a school till about 4 I started from when he turned 2.
Week 1: All about me
Week 2: Me and my House
Week 3 My Family
Week 4: All around the world
Week 5: Transportation
Week 6: Easter
Week 7: Holiday With Grandma
Week 8: Potty Training
Week 9: Personal Health
Week 10: Colours & Rainbows
Week 11: Flowers
Week 12: Oceans & Beaches
Week 13: Animal Habitats
Week 14: Zoo
Week 15: Ocean & Beach
Week 16: Gardening
Week 17: 5 Senses
Week 18: Feelings
Week 19: Break
Week 20: Break
Week 21: Hot & Cold
Week 22: Weather
Week 23: Rainy
Week 24: Hot
Week 25: Harmattan
Week 26: Snowy
Week 27: Cats & Dogs
Week 28: Bees & Butterfly
Week 29: Birds
Week 30: Independence/Nigeria
Week 31: Igbo
Week 32: Yoruba
Week 33: Hausa
Week 34: Trees
Week 35: Bears
Week 36: Community Helpers
Week 37: Doctors & Dentists
Week 38: Fire Fighters & Chef
Week 39: Police & Teacher
Week 40: Mechanic & Architect
Week 41: Cleaners
Week 42: Christmas & New Year
Week 43: Fruits
Week 44: Apple & Strawberry
Week 45: Grapes & Orange
Week 46: Banana & Mango
Week 47: Languages
Week 48: French
Week 49: Valentine/Spanish
Week 50: Shapes - Circle
Week 51: Square
Week 52: Triangle
How did I pick out the themes?
There was no science to how I picked out the theme, I checked online based on what people currently do, shuffled things around based on time of the year and the people I have access to.
How will I know what activities to do under each theme?
This is the format I use to plan ahead.
- Numeracy:
- Science:
- Craft:
- Fine motor skills:
- Gross motor skills:
- Cooking:
- Books to read:
- Trip:
- Screen:
- Music:
- Bible:
Are the activities done daily?
No, we only focus on 3 times a week. The other days are to explore nature freely, free play and frankly plenty tv. If I had a sandbox already, I will add that to the other days.
I would share by Wednesday our “All about me” activities we were up to last week. Just to note that my son is 2 and most of our activities are on the basic level we do a lot of conversation about these things more than actually doing anything and based on the age of your child, you can tweak the activities to fit their level.
What do you do for homeschooling with your toddler?
Follow me on Instagram @thecuddleblog to see our homeschooling journey
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