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Caring beyond caring - A Tribute to Mothers on mothers day
It is my first mother’s day and as my son grows closer to the end of his first year on earth it is inevitable
that I get this moment of reflection. I can categorically now say that I had no clue what mothering entailed.
When I went to visit people that gave birth and even the closest to me - my sister -
I still never understood. You never really understand until you are a primary caregiver to a child.
that I get this moment of reflection. I can categorically now say that I had no clue what mothering entailed.
When I went to visit people that gave birth and even the closest to me - my sister -
I still never understood. You never really understand until you are a primary caregiver to a child.
It’s not just a bath; It’s like just seeing them taking baths for the baby and thinking that is all that it entails
but there is the cleaning of the ears, nose, cutting of the nails, burping, pacing in the middle of the night,
vomits, after immunisation temperature, sleep training, colic crying child, sleep deprivation,
picking out the outfits, enduring kicks before you eventually get the diaper in place.
but there is the cleaning of the ears, nose, cutting of the nails, burping, pacing in the middle of the night,
vomits, after immunisation temperature, sleep training, colic crying child, sleep deprivation,
picking out the outfits, enduring kicks before you eventually get the diaper in place.
It’s really not about you; I have been a mother for almost 1 year now and I know that mothering is one of the hardest jobs
that there is. The weight -which shouldn’t really be a weight - of the responsibility that has been
placed on your shoulders to nurture and raise a well rounded individual starts from the moment
he/she gives the first cry.
I have also realised that in the moments when I thought about myself and my comfort,
It was detrimental - to a certain degree - to my baby. I know there is society that says
“Take care of yourself” at least It’s only a stable mother that can care for a child right?
But what if your caring for yourself is getting in the way of your duty to raise this child?
You put it in the back seat without apology. I have learnt that.
that there is. The weight -which shouldn’t really be a weight - of the responsibility that has been
placed on your shoulders to nurture and raise a well rounded individual starts from the moment
he/she gives the first cry.
I have also realised that in the moments when I thought about myself and my comfort,
It was detrimental - to a certain degree - to my baby. I know there is society that says
“Take care of yourself” at least It’s only a stable mother that can care for a child right?
But what if your caring for yourself is getting in the way of your duty to raise this child?
You put it in the back seat without apology. I have learnt that.
So, I would go to bed early so I can stick to his routine even if I know it practically means
not getting anything done at night or in the morning or be willing to grugy if I am
stubborn and work till past midnight - the point is to not let me also get in the way of my
duty in the name of taking care of myself (Not that it is not important)
not getting anything done at night or in the morning or be willing to grugy if I am
stubborn and work till past midnight - the point is to not let me also get in the way of my
duty in the name of taking care of myself (Not that it is not important)
You have to learn balance; I have learnt so much about balance, not work-life balance or
how to juggle being a mother, career woman and wife but more about balance with caring.
How much is too much love? How much of this will translate to spoiling your child?
Should I shout? How do I correct this budding habit?
He is 3 months now and doesn’t sleep through the night will it ruin him for life?
Does this child even understand anything yet? You know a child doesn’t come with a manual,
you have to rely on the experiences of those before you - yet children are not the same,
so how do you balance it? THAT IS THE BALANCE I AM TALKING ABOUT.
how to juggle being a mother, career woman and wife but more about balance with caring.
How much is too much love? How much of this will translate to spoiling your child?
Should I shout? How do I correct this budding habit?
He is 3 months now and doesn’t sleep through the night will it ruin him for life?
Does this child even understand anything yet? You know a child doesn’t come with a manual,
you have to rely on the experiences of those before you - yet children are not the same,
so how do you balance it? THAT IS THE BALANCE I AM TALKING ABOUT.
You become BIG BROTHER; You have to be a hawk, literally noticing everything your child does or doesn't do.
How your child reacts to things, play pattern, sleep pattern, feeding pattern, poop pattern,
poop textures, pee pattern and frequency, cry pattern, milestone pattern just name it,
you have to know, why?
Because one can affect the other and your baby cannot tell you exactly when something is wrong.
How your child reacts to things, play pattern, sleep pattern, feeding pattern, poop pattern,
poop textures, pee pattern and frequency, cry pattern, milestone pattern just name it,
you have to know, why?
Because one can affect the other and your baby cannot tell you exactly when something is wrong.
I KNOW first hand now that when saying “Caring for a child” there is so much that meets the eyes.
It is not just a bath!
It is the care beyond the care!
Happy Mother's day.
Happy primary caregiver’s day.
One day is not enough to celebrate the primary caregivers of a child.
Yes! It is the primary caregiver that deserves to be celebrated. They are the ones that do all the work!
Yes! It is the primary caregiver that deserves to be celebrated. They are the ones that do all the work!
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Fun Christmas Family Traditions you can start || The Cuddle Blog
Christmas has always been a very special holiday for me because of what it represents and now that I have a Child I get to teach him about Christ and the essence of his birth which is very special to me.
Growing up, our Christmas tradition was just like most Nigerian families, decorate your home at the beginning of December, wake up to my Mum frying puff puff and cooking up a storm - fried rice, Jollof rice, chicken - then going to Church and coming back to feast on all the food till you can no longer move. Now thinking about it, it sounds like the feasting that takes place during Thanksgiving in some other parts of the world.
Since I got married - 2 years ago - my husband is always busy during the Christmas holiday and we’ve not really had a tradition as it’s always a quiet day. Now, we have a child and I won't want him to think that Christmas is not worth celebrating because he has an hardworking Daddy, I would love him to grow up with a tradition that he can appreciate and enjoy even if we have to do it right before his father gets busy.
Here are a few Christmas family traditions you can start
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Vegan in Nigeria
Over the years I have become conscious of the things that I eat, initially because I wanted to lose and maintain my weight but in doing my research I discovered the benefit of actually eating clean way beyond weight lose. I decided to love me enough to not just eat Junk.
When I subscribed to Netflix, was attracted to the documentary "What the Health" and was shocked by everything that was revealed in there and I made a decision based on the information to go vegan.
In my new quest of becoming vegan, I had a conversation with my friend about it and he said "At the end of the day everyone is trying to gain something" what he means is that the creator of the documentary that is exposing the meat and dairy industry and encouraging people to go Vegan will also be trying to gain from the rising vegan industry in the country.
I sort of see his point, in the sense that everyone wants to cash out at the end of the day but I would rather enrich people and businesses that make products that are good for me as against the ones that kill me slowly.
A few people didn't think I was in it for the long haul but, It's been almost 3 months since I made the decision and I am still transitioning but I have had 2 weeks straight vegan meals and it was indeed amazing. It's been an interesting journey since I made the decision.
I will share subsequently on the things I have learnt in this short journey, my recipes and thinking of my baby also being vegan in Nigeria.
Vegan - Why I decided to go Vegan || The Cuddle Blog
Over the years I have become conscious of the things that I eat, initially because I wanted to lose and maintain my weight but in doing my research I discovered the benefit of actually eating clean way beyond weight lose. I decided to love me enough to not just eat Junk.
When I subscribed to Netflix, was attracted to the documentary "What the Health" and was shocked by everything that was revealed in there and I made a decision based on the information to go vegan.
In my new quest of becoming vegan, I had a conversation with my friend about it and he said "At the end of the day everyone is trying to gain something" what he means is that the creator of the documentary that is exposing the meat and dairy industry and encouraging people to go Vegan will also be trying to gain from the rising vegan industry in the country.
I sort of see his point, in the sense that everyone wants to cash out at the end of the day but I would rather enrich people and businesses that make products that are good for me as against the ones that kill me slowly.
A few people didn't think I was in it for the long haul but, It's been almost 3 months since I made the decision and I am still transitioning but I have had 2 weeks straight vegan meals and it was indeed amazing. It's been an interesting journey since I made the decision.
I will share subsequently on the things I have learnt in this short journey, my recipes and thinking of my baby also being vegan in Nigeria.
What do you think of the vegan lifestyle? Is it something you would consider?
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As soon as you are cleared by the doctors after delivery, you are throw into the deep end called breastfeeding - with or without your permission. As a first time mum, I definitely didn't know what to expect with this new but I also wish people talked about these things I found out a few months down the line.
What no one tells you about breastfeeding || The Cuddle Blog
As soon as you are cleared by the doctors after delivery, you are throw into the deep end called breastfeeding - with or without your permission. As a first time mum, I definitely didn't know what to expect with this new but I also wish people talked about these things I found out a few months down the line.
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Out of body Mumsperience || The Cuddle Blog
Yes! I just coined the word.
It is every experience unique to Mums!
I had an out of body experience. Oh No! I had an out of body Mumsperience. It was less then one month after I had Cuddles and he was on a 2 hours eat-sleep schedule. He woke up sometime in the middle of the night this fateful day and He started crying, I picked him up and just kept rocking him but he just won't stop crying. I was beginning to wonder what could be wrong with him when my husband woke up and asked me
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